The
Internet is not a reliable way of making friends as the friend can fake his or
her identity and other person would believe them. [1]“Friends real and friends
unknown want you to be their Facebook, MySpace, Spinn, LinkedIn, Good Reads and
other social network friend”[1]. Few of the youngster like to have fake
identity just to make friends and if they did something which would affect the person ,they can get out of it very easily
as the person who is hurt doesn’t know the other persons true identity.
These days Internet is becoming a bad influence to the youth. There are at time
were people mistake someone else as their friend and start chatting with them
and they don’t realize that the other is
not good it would become a problem as that person would spread some information
about you to other people and that information may end up reaching your
friends . Few of the teenagers start trusting their online friends
without even knowing them properly or before even meeting them .The teenager
feel that all the online friends are is
a trust worthy friend because they have the convincing power and they find the
online friend treats him/ her better than their friends. It doesn’t make since
when people chat for hours together without any face to face interaction.
Chatting makes it difficult for both the party as both of them are not able to
understand the other person feeling and sometime both of them tend to hide
their emotions as they are just chatting and they are not able to see the other
persons emotions. These day we find many people making friends online and they
are happy about it .We can’t tell what will happened after a month or even year
or even day when a friend come and tells us that he asked a girl out or the
girl accepting a boys proposal as we are not sure what would be the end result
of the relationship as he/she who became a friend through a social networking
site.
I
would like to tell you a small incident which happened with my close friends
family were her uncle was a very busy man and he hardly had any time for her
aunt. My friends aunt used to feel very bored and with the help of my friend
she somehow to used the computer and slowly started using facebook and she got
a Friend request from a unknown person and she accepted the request .Slowly she
started chatting with that person .Both of them could not find out about each
before chatting because they had fake name which hid their identity. Once the
wife got to know that it was her husband, she felt sad. The reason she felt sad
was that her husband did not have time for her but he had time to chat with an
unknown person .The unknown person was my friends aunt and she felt cheated so
she divorced her husband .This show it is easy to make friends on social
networking site and fooling unknown people about their identity but they in
turn my a fool out of themselves. This story told by my Friend Ashwin.
[2]Dr Sigman maintains that social networking sites have played a significant role in making people become more isolated.
"Social networking is the internet's biggest growth area, particular among young children," he said.
"Social networking sites should allow us to embellish our social lives, but what we find is very different. The tail is wagging the dog. These are not tools that enhance, they are tools that displace."[2]
These days we have teenagers or even adults who commit suicide because the boy or girl have not excepted the proposal which in this world is the right thing to do. It is really hard to believe that a person gives his or her life for a person whom they have not seen or spoken to in their life but have only spoken with them .Few of them have the opportunity to see his or her online friends as the online friend sends his/her picture, but we do not know whether the picture sent is correct or not and sad part is that they blindly believe on them and fall in love with them and they would be cheated. This would leads to lots of problems. Sometime the online friends don’t like to show their identity as they feel they are safe but the online friends don’t understand the problems of the other person .There is no reason for both the party to play mind games and each of them feel that they are fooling the other person but in reality they are fooling themselves and wasting both of their precious time typing nonsense mail .It is difficult to chat with a friend online even though you know the person because sometime your friend’s id is hacked and you are not aware about it and you chat with him like you chat with your friend .The next time you meet your Friend face to face you get to know you were not chatting with your friend but you were chatting with some stranger and the strange may be your enemy.
Sometime parents are depressed due to their own problems as a result they are not able to spent time with their kids so which in turn leads their children to search for friends online which they find it easy. The children below 18 yrs tend to use facebook or any social networking sites which should be monitored by their parents so that they do not fall into wrong group of friends.
I would like to conclude my essay saying that social networking sites such as facebook, Orkut, Twitter, Netlog and many more limits us from meeting that is having a face to face conversation with our near and dear ones .We also start avoiding many important things like exercise, spent time with our parents .reading books and many other important things just for the sake of a Friend online who we do not know much about, which is not practical in our part.
[2]Dr Sigman maintains that social networking sites have played a significant role in making people become more isolated.
"Social networking is the internet's biggest growth area, particular among young children," he said.
"Social networking sites should allow us to embellish our social lives, but what we find is very different. The tail is wagging the dog. These are not tools that enhance, they are tools that displace."[2]
These days we have teenagers or even adults who commit suicide because the boy or girl have not excepted the proposal which in this world is the right thing to do. It is really hard to believe that a person gives his or her life for a person whom they have not seen or spoken to in their life but have only spoken with them .Few of them have the opportunity to see his or her online friends as the online friend sends his/her picture, but we do not know whether the picture sent is correct or not and sad part is that they blindly believe on them and fall in love with them and they would be cheated. This would leads to lots of problems. Sometime the online friends don’t like to show their identity as they feel they are safe but the online friends don’t understand the problems of the other person .There is no reason for both the party to play mind games and each of them feel that they are fooling the other person but in reality they are fooling themselves and wasting both of their precious time typing nonsense mail .It is difficult to chat with a friend online even though you know the person because sometime your friend’s id is hacked and you are not aware about it and you chat with him like you chat with your friend .The next time you meet your Friend face to face you get to know you were not chatting with your friend but you were chatting with some stranger and the strange may be your enemy.
Sometime parents are depressed due to their own problems as a result they are not able to spent time with their kids so which in turn leads their children to search for friends online which they find it easy. The children below 18 yrs tend to use facebook or any social networking sites which should be monitored by their parents so that they do not fall into wrong group of friends.
I would like to conclude my essay saying that social networking sites such as facebook, Orkut, Twitter, Netlog and many more limits us from meeting that is having a face to face conversation with our near and dear ones .We also start avoiding many important things like exercise, spent time with our parents .reading books and many other important things just for the sake of a Friend online who we do not know much about, which is not practical in our part.
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Vignesh Nathan
FSLE-3
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